The Data Says: Anorgasmia in ND Women

The data says neurodivergent women report higher rates of anorgasmia — difficulty reaching orgasm, taking longer to climax, or not experiencing orgasm at all.

This doesn’t mean a lack of desire. It means the path to orgasm can be more complex. Neurology, medications, sensory processing, and past experiences all play a role.

What Anorgasmia Can Look Like

• Wanting sex but not reaching climax.
• Needing longer or different kinds of stimulation than a partner expects.
• Feeling pressure to “perform” rather than enjoying the moment.
• Assuming something is wrong with you when your body doesn’t respond the way you hoped.

Why It Matters

When providers or partners don’t ask about orgasm, ND women are left without support. That silence can reinforce shame and isolation. But anorgasmia is common, not a personal failing.

What Helps

• Communication. Naming what feels good (and what doesn’t) reduces pressure and confusion.
• Sensory awareness. Exploring textures, pressure, or environments that feel comfortable can open new pathways.
• Medication review. Some prescriptions, especially SSRIs, can blunt sexual response. Adjusting treatment with a provider can help.
• Patience. Intimacy is not a race; pressure often makes orgasm harder.

ND women are not broken. Anorgasmia is part of a larger story about how neurodivergence shapes intimacy, and naming it is the first step toward change.

Thank you for the trust, I’m Heather.

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References

• Peixoto, M. M., Nobre, P. J., & Gouveia, J. P. (2020). Sexual dysfunction in women with autism spectrum disorder: A systematic review. Journal of Autism and Developmental Disorders, 50(5), 1648–1661. https://doi.org/10.1007/s10803-019-03939-2
• Brotto, L. A., & Smith, K. B. (2014). Sexual desire and arousal in women: Distinct yet overlapping constructs. Journal of Sexual Medicine, 11(3), 753–765. https://doi.org/10.1111/jsm.12421

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